which basically means “fool who loses his male child and the fortunate one who loses a girl child”.

First of all, go read this. And also this by the same gentleman. I feel like getting a statue made of the man and then let loose pigeons on it. Or worse, make him stand at a crossroad and unleash girls and women on him.

Alright Mister Malpani, its funny your name you know. Quite indicative of your mission in life…to rake in the maal at the cost of all ethics. Still, for argument’s sake, I’ll indulge you. Because sad as it is, I know you are not alone. There are thousands of people, men and women who agree with you, and feed off professionals like you who provide encouragement and twisted logic to something that is clearly wrong…any which way you look at it.

If a couple have had three boys, for instance, and want to have a fourth child, why shouldn’t they have the option of choosing to give birth to a girl?

I myself am very happy with my two girls. However, I would not want to impose my views on others. The couple we treated already had one baby girl and wanted only one more baby to complete their family. They said they wanted a boy for a balanced family. This was a reasonable request, and if we have the technology to fulfill it, then why not use it?

Really? That simple eh? That doesn’t sell you oaf because only when people have had boys that they seem to desire a girl in this society. And truth be told, a lot of people might succumb to the “hum do hamare do” ideology and envisage a family with a boy and a girl. Yet, if not the perfect scenario, two boys is still acceptable. 2 girls, however, is not. And either you are extremely naive to believe that its all just about “balancing” the family, or are just fishing for arguments to continue making money the immoral way.

Many doctors would have few or no qualms about “discarding” an embryo diagnosed as having trisomy 21, in the belief that a baby with Down’s syndrome will have a less than optimal quality of life.If we allow people to choose when to have babies, how many to have, and even to terminate pregnancies if they inadvertently get pregnant, then why not allow them to select the sex of their child, if it is possible?

The man wonders, if it is alright to abort a foetus with disability, why isn’t it alright to choose the sex of the child?

The fact is Mister, being blessed with a female foetus is not the same at being burdened with a child who has disabilities. Yet, in this society, girl embryos are treated as just that. A foetus with disability. The financial implication is high ( dowry), the emotional angle ( they go away to another family, we in vest so much but lose them) and they suffer at the hands of society anyway.

One cannot “choose” the child on the basis of its sex because that is the work of nature. Not of corrupt doctors who won’t hesitate to misuse technology for a few extra notes. Tell me, if couples have planned for 2 children and the first two are girls, why do they try a third time?? Would they still do so equally if one of the first two was a boy?

Your argument does not make sense simply because it never is about “balance”. It is always about an obsession with a boy as they will apparently carry the family name forward, they will take care of parents in old age, they will not leave with dowry but get it, they will carry family businesses forward.

The want of a boy is rooted in culture and position of women in our society. And as of now, it doesn’t seem to hold any favour towards girls. And that is why even when we have a legislation in place that bans sex detection and makes it illegal, there is not a single case where someone has been convicted for indulging in the same. Because people like you, who are in a position to do something and contribute to the cause, believe that it is alright to abort foetuses on the basis of sex. Perfectly healthy embryos that have a right to be born, if a couple desires a child.

Yes, one would argue that the position of women needs o change in society and we need to start looking at females as an asset, as much as a male child. But while we get there, either you should understand the morality and complexities in the issue or stop the facade of being happy with “your” girls. Because if it is alright for you to have only girls complete your family, it definitely is alright for everyone else as well.

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