Posted by: chandni | February 22, 2008

Pots and pans…

 I was talking to an old friend from school last night and the poor girl was complaining about the cooking she has to do, everyday. She works from home and is expecting a baby too, so I can very well imagine how tiring it must be!

Since I left home about 8 years ago, I’ve been living in hostels/PGs mostly, never really owning a kitchen. It was only 6 months before the wedding, when I moved in to the house we were hoping to call home ( and now do!), did I finally get one. So basically, as far as cooking was concerned, I could do maggi ( which Hosteller doesn’t know that!), some egg and chai. And that is about it.

But once I got the kitchen, I started experimenting with cooking, finally! I remember my mom used to keep urging me to learn, wherever I was, and I always replied that I’d get a cook. And my Mom would then patiently remind me that unless I know how things are done, I can’t guide the cook anyway…

Oh, but I am digressing. The point is. I. Now. Cook. Officially!  Nothing fancy and all that, but lets just say I can put basic meals together. But more importantly, I enjoy it! That is really the point of this post.

You will often find me reading food blogs, checking out recipes on the internet, and trying out stuff. And that’s how I’ve learnt. For every ONE dish I need to make, I have about SIX recipes, where I add/subtract ingredients according to liking and the final recipe, I guess, is a mixture of all, and not really close to any one in particular ( I know it sounds crazy…)

I was surprised at my enthusiasm because I always thought I was the kind who’d probably hate cooking, or be clumsy in the kitchen. And then I figured. Part of the reason I enjoy cooking,  is, that I am cooking because I want to,  and not because I have to. And there lies a huge difference!

Right now, there are no “rules” in the house, so to speak. If I want, I cook, if I don’t feel like, the Boy promptly orders pizza or chinese or whatever food we’re feeling like, at that moment. Also, he cooks over the weekend. Either way, we have friends over or are invited someplace, so weekends are not an issue.  

And I now know that I am thoroughly enjoying this cooking business. It relaxes me.  I put on Worldspace and happily spend my time in the kitchen after I get back from work and its a lot of fun! But if the scenario was different, like my friend’s, for example,  if I “had to” cook without fail, or feed a certain number of people on a daily basis, I think i’d be the first to run out and get a cook!

Since its just the Boy and me, the biggest advantage, I guess,  is this. I don’t “worry” about experiments going haywire or not achieving the desired result at first go. Or feel bad about the rotis that still go wrong! Because my worth as a “woman”/ “wife” is not measured according to my culinary skills…

But hey, that makes it sound like I am a really bad cook! I assure you, is not the case, I am pretty decent. ( Danger: Modesty check please)

Err…right.

And now a colleague tells me he thinks I am anaemic. And no, it isn’t because of how thin fat I am, but some other doctor’s logic of his. And I realize, I have never tried cooking palak or methi at home as I don’t like them. Which is not very nice.

Pass on the recipes, will ya?

Responses

You give me hope :D.
I believe I have a knack for cooking, but haven’t been able to cook for reasons I hate to think about.
The Baby can’t cook for toffee either. He swears that once we’re together we’ll be able to put a meal together with a bit of practice, but I am understandably quite worried about that.

Still, cooking - or trying to - whenever I can relaxes me like nothing else. :)
As for anaemia, fish is good, bananas are good. Also methi chicken is really delicious if you figure out how to cook it :P

me: Suki darling, you are supposed to pass on recipes, not give gyaan on what’s good
:D

I can totally relate. No exposure to kitchen before I got my first home in this city where I moved to work. Then slowly got into cooking mode. Me too find cooking very relaxing. Also I myself prefer tasty food to survive so .. :P

But again cooking four times a day on a daily basis is not my forte. Given that I am cleanliness maniac ;)

I am biased towards people when it comes to cooking. I love and can cook anytime for hubby but not for all :P

When the other person is fussy ; I tend to get tensed and land up doing more mistakes :-(

Recipes sure will do. and I too go thro lot of food blogs and all :)

me: gasp! That’s exactly what i wanted to say. I like cooking for some people :P

I still remember the scrambled eggs you cooked up a few months ago. I haven’t eating any “eggy” thing that good since :)

And I’ll pass on the palak dish receipes to the Boy when he is here!

me: Thanks. But I must confess, that was less my cooking and more the cheese I put in generously :D

I agree with u.. There are days when being in the kitchen is what I want to do… and days when I hate to step inside one, even for a getting something out of the fridge. The flexibility of take-outs and understanding partners make cooking n food so much fun!

me: exactly! the fact that the Boy doesn’t really care if I cook or not, or how burnt my food gets, makes it exciting :D
honestly, the man is low maintainence, doesn’t notice excess/lack of salt or anything!
;)

All those growing up years, I refused to learn cooking. CUZ everyone told me being a girl I HAVE to. The rebel that ‘m, I pledged never to cook or even learn to cook. I was so bloody against those gender stereotypes even back then. And then I hated it also cuz mom would order me around in the kitchen, in tat gruff tone - pick tat up, add tat in, stir it well. I always maintained tat I will be rich (yeah rite!) nuff to keep a cook. But now, I finally realized the importance of cooking. Not tat I have to now. But I realized If I ever have to live on my own, I wud be broke eating out every day.So when I take those baby steps towards cooking, m kinda enjoying it. As u said, I really dont HAVE to, so its a pleasure.

But I hate doing the dishes after tat. Its a pain!

me: I know exactly what u mean about the dishes…but I am lucky that way, the boy takes care of them. Always.!

Ditto! My foray into the kitchen was only after I got married and that too because there was nothing else to do on this one day!
But over time,I began to enjoy cooking and experimenting and YES I do have my lazy, couch-potato, kitchen-jaaye-bhaad-mein days on a regular basis as well!
Mail me Chandni,for I can pass on to you all the culinary gyaan that I have ;-)You can email me even otherwise,ok?

me: you’re a doll! will email soon. Thanks so much :)

U speak my mind, gurl !!

I’ve been married for only 8 months now so I’m so fresh into the cooking foray, u can imagine the disasters !!

But I love the freedom I enjoy when it comes to cooking atleast. There are days when G returns home and finds that I havent cooked anything just bcos I was too lazy to walk up till there! But its nothing like a ‘crime’ or something….as u said, the pizza or the chinese comes in !

:-)

me: :D

check out cuisinecuisine.com my go to recipie site..easy to make and tasty.

me: thanks! will check it out :)

Cool.. so u like to cook.. so do I. Not everyday, but I like to hit the kitchen when the mood so happens. And talking abt eggs, I love to make omelettes. Chk out http://o3.indiatimes.com/vrij/archive/2007/07/28/4753848.aspx at my old blog!

And for enhancing ur culinary skills, there is something I’m coming up with pretty soon.. so wud let u know abt that..

me: ok! will be waiting :)

:sigh: Wish I HAD recipes I’ve done myself! My repertoire would be cake, jell-o, toast, tea(good tea!), coffee… and a dubious upma. LOL.
Oats cooked in milk for 2-3 minutes with a banana chopped into it and lots of sugar(well, I like it sweet) makes a great wholesome breakfast. I’m so sure you knew that. :P

me:lol!

i totally agree!! if you’ve lived in a hostel, for the duration that you reside there, maggi is god! quite literally! :D
i think cooking is a fabulous de-stressor… and one certainly gets better as one practices… will pass on that recipe, if you seriously want it..(somehow i get the feeling that you actually do know how to cook methi/palak, even if you dont like them!:P)

me: i swear to u i don’t! please pass on the recipe…and my mum is sick of the frantic phone calls :D

Yes yes I know your enthu for cooking - you end up making three dishes in an evening of which one is reserved for lunch for office next morning :-)

bhagwaan aisi pyaari beewi sab ko de!! but at the same time chandu you’re not expected to do all of that, but i guess you’re right when you say that its more for the enjoyment of cooking. i wish i could do that more often, for the moment its just weekends.

but there’s also another factor - khana when made with enthusiasm tastes much better than khana made just for the sake of it :-) so now you know why my weekend chicken tastes what it tastes like

me: :D

I agree - it’s fun to cook when you’re doing it out of choice and that’s when the grub turns out tastier as well. I can’t imagine cooking because I have to, and am sure I’d make a mess out of the best recipes.

The best part of cooking for me is the expression on my husband’s face when he really likes something I’ve churned out :)

me: that’s so sweet :)

Here’s a little secret, from someone’s who’s been living by herself for nearly 6 years now - i can cook fantastic complicated gourmet food. French. check. italian. check. japanese. check. south american. check.
BUT food that you want to eat on a daily basis -I cannot yet make the proper dal chawal. And the rotis are maps of unknown countries. Argh.
And I shall mail you the recipe of spinach paella. Happy eating with white wine.

me: the best paella is sea food paella!!!! I want italian recipes too…apart from the basic pasta I don’t do much
:)

Sent you the Keema recipe. :)

me: u’re a doll!

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yeah…i did start out cooking only because i didn’t have a choice (got tired of eating veg-sub every frikkin day at the cafeteria here in the US) but ended up loving cooking. super de-stresser, lots of satisfaction in making a good meal..
there is also an element of joy in cooking for others, methinks. (not out of engendered duty but just the fact that someone besides you appreciates your efforts…and may be does the dishes. ;) )

me: yes yes, the dishes done after by someone else is super imp! ;)

Oh I love cooking too. I can cook any decent sabji - it’s all about having fun while you cook. Watch “Ratatouille” - you’ll love cooking!

me: missed it somehow. will watch it!

Hieee
I seriously want to meet u..
I do.. Cuz I can see myself wen u write..
I had already posted u regarding the Birth Date that we share.. 13 oCT..
aND today while coming to office I was so pissed of with the cooking and all .I njoy cooking , But I expect way too much from me and I end up getting frustrated..
but this post has seriously brigtened my mood..

Thx a toooooooooooooooooon

me: Glad to make someone smile!! Do u live in Delhi by any chance? We could meet immideately then…or else, email me which pasrt of the country you’re in and we can see if work or pleasure takes us there in the near future! :D

No I stay in Pune..
I would be coming to delhi very soon .. We are heading for our HoneyMoon to Binsar…
I’ll mail u the details abt the delhi visit..
reading ur blog has made some very positve changes in my attitude..
thx a tooon again :)

me: Please do email me and tell me when u come…but u said honeymoom right?? So how will u find the time to meet???? That’s of course assuming, you want to spend all ur time with ur BOy :D

Oi you both! Drop by some weekend. I like cooking (though for daily cooking there is a maid) and mine is not the case of all liking and no skills.

Mumma (HER’S!) is proud of it ;-)
Now that she knows how particular I am about cleanliness and cooking, MIL says she is gonna have a good life. [Confession: A part of me is not getting afraid of would be married life :O]

me: What “some” weekend?? Invite us properly with date and time. I am always up for free food! ;)

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